National studies show that 25% of all single adults have paid for the use of Online Dating Services – and – that number is expected to increase to 50% over the next five to seven years!

Will you be one of those who come aboard?

Because of the explosive growth of Online Dating – and especially if you yourself are single and looking for a partner online – it may be helpful to learn the best ways to use Online Dating Sites before actually joining one of them! As an Online Dating Coach, I want to help you make the best use of your time and money in your quest to find your Soulmate.

First and foremost, as in any relationship, honesty will be the most important factor in your finding a partner who shares your values and personal interests.

What type of relationship are you looking for? If you’d like to find someone who’s fun to be with so you can have some play time on the weekends, by stating your goal honestly right at the beginning, there will be a much greater likelihood of meeting someone who has the same vision.

One of the obvious side-benefits of this is your avoiding a series of uncomfortable conversations later about why you won’t commit to the relationship, or why you’re not willing to spend more time together, etc.

Another useful tip when entering the world of Online Dating is to match your choice of dating sites with the type of relationship you’re seeking. If you’re looking for a weekend companion “without any strings attached,” there are dating sites you can join whose members feel the same way. On the other hand, if your goal is to meet someone for marriage, you’d be better off starting with an online dating site whose members have the same intentions. As a Dating Coach, one of the first steps in working with new clients is my assessing their innermost values. By starting with this step, I can better recommend the dating sites that will deliver appropriate matches.

If you’re tired of random dating and not finding someone compatible, then my advice is to join the better known online dating sites which charge for their matchmaking services. Most of these companies use sophisticated compatibility software which match the subtleties of your unique personality. They will also match the basics like your marital status, religion, and education. By asking in-depth questions, and having you rate their importance, many online dating sites produce high success rates for meetings between the same clients. In other words, the match made through the dating service was pleasant enough so both parties wanted to see each other again after their first date.

Finally, to be safe in your quest to find your Soulmate, consider using an anonymous email address (through Gmail, Yahoo, Hotmail, or something similar) without assigning your true name (and certainly not your last name) to your account, nor should you include your home telephone number. It’s best to get to know someone through the dating site first, before providing this information.

After your initial online email exchange and perhaps one or two IM chat sessions, you should be ready (assuming all goes well) to make plans for a telephone conversation. The proper online dating etiquette would be for the woman to call the man first, blocking her telephone number from Caller ID. Only after one or two successful telephone calls should a face-to-face meeting at a coffee shop be scheduled.

In the interest of safety, always plan your first couple dates in a public place, and even better if it’s during the day. Do not pick up or ask to be picked up for the date. Meet each other at a mutually agreed upon location, and also agree ahead of time to leave each other from a public place so you can drive home in your own cars. If your potential date balks at the suggestion to not be in a vehicle together, look elsewhere for sure. It’s not worth your safety to try to figure out if the person you met online may just be over-sensitive or unaware of the “rules.”

By following these simple guidelines, you can make online dating a success. By the second date, if all goes well, trust should be established and you’ll be on your way to building your next relationship!

With regards to your love life, how successful are you? Perhaps you are making a few wrong decisions which is stopping you from meeting your potential mate and if this is the case, there are a few love life success tips that you should make note of to ensure future happiness.

One of the most important love life success tips that you must remember is that if you and your partner have nothing in common and there is no spark between you, it is simply not going to work. It doesn’t matter how hard the pair of you try, some things are just not meant to be and hitting this one on the head as soon as you realize that it is not going to work will leave you both with the freedom to meet a partner that is right for you.

Moving on to the next of our love life success tips, patience is so important and so many people do not realize this. If he/she does not call, this doesn’t always mean that they do not like you; it just means that they have other things going on or are playing hard to get. Being patient is important for this reason and also when getting to know your partner. They may not divulge all of their deepest darkest secrets on the first date and this probably a good thing to make sure you do not run for the hills. This means that you are going to learn a lot about them over the coming months or however long that your relationship lasts and there may be things that you are not overly keen on. This is not a reason to leave them and start looking for a new mate, this just means that you will need to patient enough to work through these differences and hopefully come to some sort of compromise.

Another of the love life success tips that you should utilize is to be prepared to compromise and this follows on from my earlier point. Remember that most people have emotional baggage that they are bringing into the new relationship, which means that they may have picked up bad habits along the way. They may have been cheated on in the past or been hurt by a partner and if this is the case, you will need to work through this as they may show signs of distrust with you. This is not to say that they do not trust you, it just means that they are keeping their guard up until they realize that this is not going to happen in this relationship and there may be some compromise needed by way of going on nights out together and such like to ensure that there is way that one can accuse the other and suchlike.

Most of the love life success tips are pretty self-explanatory and some of them will apply more to one person than another. One thing that you will find is that you may pick up your own tips along the way and if they seem to be working for you, keep going with them!